Life will be beautiful when......

chasing a distant dream....

-i have courage to meet the incredible challenges

-i can beat the enemies of mighty strength

-i chase out fear from my life

-i dare to be different from my counterparts

-i realize my self

-i am able to stand apart from others

-i can rely on myself for the rest of life

-i clear my mental blocks

-i become strong-physically and mentally

-i can talk out my convictions and ideas

-i can follow my principles with pride

-i see my dreams come true

-i live a life of self-respect,dignity,bravery

-and i can say "life is beautiful"

who saves whose dignity?

The toughest journey is of a woman's .Both in life and in public vehicles,i travel in bus regularly and i get a bundle of new experiences,sight of new faces.but
yesterday i had a strange happening in life.
i sat at the edge of the seat and was chatting with a friend,the bus was crowded with full of men,one man was standing beside me,...just standing,he didn't do anything,but two other men started shouting at him -"how can you stand near a women,move that side.....etc",that broke out into a big fight,every body in the bus gave me a indifferent look,those men shouted at me-" these girls don't know to protect the family's dignity....etc"(i cant tell those words).

I usually even don't hesitate to sit near men if there are no empty seats,i don't know what these men have done if they had seen those things,who are they to protect my dignity?they actually spoiled it,don't i know to protect my dignity,those men even don't know even the meaning of that word.

To make the matters worse they also got down at my stopping,and scolded me for a long time at the middle of the road!i didn't know how to react.

These things mainly happen due to male dominant thinking.All males i have come across in life tried to control me in any way.as a human being,I hate others imposing their ideas and principles on me,but even unknown people do that because i am a woman.

It is difficult to lead a life in this scenario,with a spirit of liberty on one side of mind and fear about society on the other side,actually it is not a fear ,it is the inability to strike a balance between the self respect and the society's respect,i am in a position to lose any one of the two.
first of all,i have my own definition of dignity,which is different from the other men,i don't think one's dignity will be spoiled by mere touching of a person of opposite gender,dignity lies in one's thinking and his/her mindset.

people who believe in physical dignity may follow untouchability,but why compelling others?It is funny to see the custom of men sitting near men,and women sitting near women.Those people are indirectly indicating that women should not come out of the house,but that is totally impossible,its like trying to build dam on the ocean.
so let us not follow the customs because it is old,let us build new a way of life,after all, only dead fishes swim along the stream.

The Testing Time

Usually ability or even fate of a person is determined by the performance in the exams.every one in the world have experienced the exam blues.

I wonder how so many months of experience and learning is judged within a few hours.Exams tests the threshold level of a person to a maximum extent.As every other student in India i have experienced those testing  times during the school leaving examinations,people around  yell at us even when we take a few minutes extra to dressup or in hair do,the highest heard sentence at that period of life is"you are wasting time"its embrassing to hear others saying even conversing with friends a waste of time!but most often we do that thing in the school or study centres,i think most often  people who lead a normal life at any situation achieve better,but the surrounding fellows create an emergency situation artificially and play havoc in our lives.

All possible kinds of advices and threats are put into our ears and our mind is pressurized.some rare and gifted children behave appropriately and bring out the best in them.people who are naturally studious alone excel in tests,any performance  can never be induced by an external force,all great things in any field arises due to internal capabilities.

some may not have the inner capacity to do well in exams,they may have their mind locked in other things,but all men and women,indiscriminately are supposed to study the same things,i don't know how does these things work,with same types of questions given to a cross section of students irrespective of their attitudes and aptitudes.

The performance at important exams echoes at various points of our lives,and the time of declaration of our scores is even worser than the exam itself,which is followed revaluation,a process of  paying our money for the mistake done by others!

I enjoyed writing exams upto a certain age,thinking of the holidays and the old pals,but as time evolved i started to think beyond the holidays and the results, and there was nothing to enjoy,we lose our happiness as age increases.

I can remember every time i sat for the examination,and the previous night mindsets,but i find no words to explain such sceptic situations,

Its a mixed feeling,and no doubt that every one of us are made to compete with certain people for the only reason that we have the same age!

 

The fading rainbow

"Friendship is the rainbow between two hearts"
-the famous and beautiful saying about friendship,but people forget all rainbows fade away after the rain stops.
friendship is nothing but a bundle of expectations.when we say the word friendship ,everyone get reminded of the proverb-"A friend in need is a friend indeed",but it expresses total selfishness,does one develops friendship only to get help in need?its impossible to have a friend without any expectations,atleast we expect them to be affectionate.
All friends become a stranger one day,close friendship is just an illusion,conflicts
arise in same proportion as closeness.
Expecting our friends to understand our problems is total madness,no body could explore our problems other than ourself,even some people dont like if their friends talk about their problems.
learning to live includes learning to live without friends.
Being friendly and approachable by all is a lifeskill,but being a true and good friend is the most difficult skill to acquire.
friends leave us even if we change slightly,is there any change-tolerant friend in the world?,ironically they are bored if we don't change.
No relationship is permanent,so let us expect less and live happily.