who saves whose dignity?

The toughest journey is of a woman's .Both in life and in public vehicles,i travel in bus regularly and i get a bundle of new experiences,sight of new faces.but
yesterday i had a strange happening in life.
i sat at the edge of the seat and was chatting with a friend,the bus was crowded with full of men,one man was standing beside me,...just standing,he didn't do anything,but two other men started shouting at him -"how can you stand near a women,move that side.....etc",that broke out into a big fight,every body in the bus gave me a indifferent look,those men shouted at me-" these girls don't know to protect the family's dignity....etc"(i cant tell those words).

I usually even don't hesitate to sit near men if there are no empty seats,i don't know what these men have done if they had seen those things,who are they to protect my dignity?they actually spoiled it,don't i know to protect my dignity,those men even don't know even the meaning of that word.

To make the matters worse they also got down at my stopping,and scolded me for a long time at the middle of the road!i didn't know how to react.

These things mainly happen due to male dominant thinking.All males i have come across in life tried to control me in any way.as a human being,I hate others imposing their ideas and principles on me,but even unknown people do that because i am a woman.

It is difficult to lead a life in this scenario,with a spirit of liberty on one side of mind and fear about society on the other side,actually it is not a fear ,it is the inability to strike a balance between the self respect and the society's respect,i am in a position to lose any one of the two.
first of all,i have my own definition of dignity,which is different from the other men,i don't think one's dignity will be spoiled by mere touching of a person of opposite gender,dignity lies in one's thinking and his/her mindset.

people who believe in physical dignity may follow untouchability,but why compelling others?It is funny to see the custom of men sitting near men,and women sitting near women.Those people are indirectly indicating that women should not come out of the house,but that is totally impossible,its like trying to build dam on the ocean.
so let us not follow the customs because it is old,let us build new a way of life,after all, only dead fishes swim along the stream.